Career Challenges
Careers can be really rewarding, but they can also be very challenging along the way. Everyone faces workplace problems at some point, and they vary so much from person to person.
Some people struggle with politics, other with boundaries. There are big egos, insecurity, schemers, people whose primary focus is to cover their own asses and much more to deal with on a daily basis. Sometimes we manage ok, but sometimes it’s too much and has a negative effect on our professional and personal lives. That’s a good time to get some help as it shouldn’t be our friend’s and family’s problem that we don’t like our boss!
It can be beneficial to look at what your challenges are at work and where they might have come from, how you ended up in a particular pattern or being reactive in certain situations. When we understand that, it’s easier to work on changing behaviors and reactions.
If you feel a co-worker or superior is out to get you, we can discuss why you feel that way. Sometimes you will be right, and you will need to manage what is happening, so you don’t end up in an undesirable situation. Other times, it may not be true and looking realistically at the situation, with the help of an outside and non-biased perspective, can help you let go of those thoughts.
You may have a boss or member(s) of your team that is hard to manage. Different strategies and ways of looking at the situation can be useful. It is possible that some of your reactions are making things harder than they need to be. It’s also possible that you are taking things personally when they are not.
For men especially, a common reaction to workplace frustration is anger. There are a couple of challenges with that. One is that anger often makes difficult situations worse. The other is that anger is generally a secondary emotion. In order to fix the problem, it’s important to understand how you are actually feeling and why.
Looking at the situation from a practical point of view and without emotions can be very useful, although hard to get to on your own. Having worked in the corporate world for 20+ years and in my own business for several years, I can help from an experienced perspective.